Friend is person involving in my life besides family.
Before, I had many friends. I liked to make friend. But after painful experiences, I change myself.
I don't want to make new friend, and I don't mind to bye bye friends that I am having if I find them are not worth for me to give my heart of friendship.
Mostly, I will go away if:
1. they are nigh life person
I don't like going out at night. I enter home before the sun sets.
Some of my friends like to hang out at night. They call me; I refuse; they laugh at me, they say I should live in pre-history of human.
I don't mutter, but I list their name in 'not-friend box'.
Usually, most of them go to drink or go to club, and they never return home if the clock does not strike 12am. Driving at night is very dangerous. Not only traffic accident but also other problems.
In my opinion, staying with such friend will cause me trouble one day. I don't pause friendship with them, but I make a gap; it is for my safety and my happiness.
2. they live with shopping
There are friends, especially ladies, like to call me to accompany them to do shopping. Not one hour nor one day, but everyday and from morning till night.
They like buying, they like spending and they have money to spend. But I don't have money to spend. Even though they pay for car petrol, drink and food, still I am not feeling well.
They walk, they buy - they get what they want. Me, I gain nothing.
In my opinion, be with such friend is a kind of wasting my time. Therefore, I have to stay away from them - to have time for doing my works.
3. they don't support me
I ever met such friend.
It is very strange, they are my friend, but they never like anything about me.
They don't like my writing. They don't click like or comment my social media post. They don't believe what I say.
But they like other writing. They click and comment all their post. Moreover, they believe all they say. Moreover, they praise other's work and criticize my writing, they force me to click like their idol's social media account/post; if I don't, they will blame me through messenger or speech face to face.
There are more than that.
I don't mind if they don't like everything about me, but they should not raise other up and step on me.
Making friend with that kind of person is very stressful. I will be a psycho if I continue with them; so, run.
4. they are my friend when they want my help
If we are friend, we should keep in touch. But some friends don't act like this. They don't think I am their friend, they don't phone or send message to me, they don't call when they see me in market or in public place.
But when they need information for their career, they contact me. When they want guest for their ceremony, such as wedding, they don't hesitate to make calling.
Before I was soft heart, I did not mind to tell anything I knew and attended all their program, but now, no way. If any friend does not contact me for long time, then they call me to join their party, I will tell them directly that I don't join.
I do to show them that I don't like their behavior and I don't want to be their friend. I want to tell that I am not stupid anymore.
5. they pretend to be caring to get secret to talk behind
This type I have met a lot.
They behave they are so caring about me.
"Are you fine?"
"Are you sad?"
"Tell me. Don't hide. It's not good for your health." etc.
After I tell, they take my story to tell other people and they add and they paint. It is a scary to have such a friend.
Because of experiences, nowadays, I am so cautious. I don't say anything about myself out even it is big problem and heavy like mountain on my chest.
There is a proverb saying 'It is not a secret if it's known by three people'; for me, 'it is not a secret anymore if it's known by two people'.
6. they don't want me to be richer than
After no meeting for many years, I am so excited to see face of my friend; but it turns to make me upset.
My friend catches my hand to check if I wear watch or ring. If I have, they will ask about price. If my thing is more expensive than theirs, they express unhappy face. If my jewelry is same price, they are not happy as well. But if my property is cheaper than theirs, they will extend their lips widely, and they will mock me.
I don't want this kind of person to come into my life. Hence, after meeting, I don't call or accept calling from them anymore.
Mostly, I don't get anything from friendship; only trouble, stress, sadness, anger.. no good thing.
Because of the experiences, I don't believe in people. I don't accept friend easily. I protect myself every minutes when I meet with human.
Having bad friend is bad luck. So, stay away, then it is a good luck.